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Why the kids going to college may lead to a gray divorce

Typically, a "gray divorce" is one in which you and your spouse are both over 50. Really, though, it refers to any divorce that happens later in life.

One key event that could trigger such a divorce is when the kids to go off to college. When the last one leaves the house, when the parents watch him or her walk into that dorm room and a new life, they often decide to split up.

Moving locations as a single parent

As a single parent with shared custody of your child, you will relish the opportunity to have quality time with your child or childrenl; however, you will likely feel constrained by the lack of freedom that co-parenting with an ex-partner creates. However, you cannot let your shared custody situation from pursuing a better life for you and your children.

Perhaps you have found a better job, want to be closer to your extended family or believe that relocation will give your children a better quality of life. Whatever the reason, relocation for a single parent is a big decision, but often a positive and exciting one.

Being successful at creating a blended family

Going through a divorce can create a whole host of different scenarios for families. It can involve shared custody scenarios, where children effectively live between two homes, but it can also mean that blended families are created.

Blended families are what is created when two parents move in together that have children of their own, thereby creating a situation that involves stepparents and stepsiblings. This can be a wonderful yet challenging set-up because it requires a diverse set of demands from the children involved.

Know what to expect from your military divorce

When a couple divorces while one or both partners serve in the military, it can create complications that civilian divorces never consider. If you or your spouse are active service members when divorce comes knocking, it is important to understand how the military may, or more importantly may not, affect the process or the outcome.

Serving in the military is an occupation and lifestyle unlike any other in our country. The chain of command is a powerful resource in many areas of both your professional and personal lives, and it is not always easy to recognize just where the boundaries on those relationships lie. Often, service members experiencing marital difficulty expect a superior to step in and levy authority to help resolve the situation. However, while serving in the military does give it the power to dictate many areas of you and your spouse's lives, your divorce is not usually one of them.

Can alimony cover schooling or career training?

If you are working your way through a Florida divorce, you are probably facing many uncertainties. Divorce can affect virtually every area of your life, from where you live and work to how often you see your children, and navigating the transitions that arise from a familial separation is rarely easy.

If you took time off work to support your spouse while he or she finished school or worked a profitable job, this may make your situation even more complicated. Rejoining the workforce after considerable time out of it can prove difficult, particularly if you once worked in an industry or field where much has changed since you held employment. You may be wondering just how to make the jump back into the working world and whether you may be able to receive any help or support in your quest to do so.

Signs that your spouse could be hiding assets

As you start the divorce process, you want to make sure that all of the assets are honestly reported to the court. It's the only way to get a fair judgement.

What should you watch out for? Below are a few things that can be red flags, tipping you off that your spouse may be hiding assets.

  • There is no communication. Your spouse won't talk to you about the financial side of the divorce. Questions go unanswered. Emails and text messages are ignored.
  • Communication is secretive. Your spouse talks to you, but always stays away from certain subjects or tries to steer the conversation away from finances. It feels like he or she is being more secretive than you've ever seen during the marriage.
  • Unexpected claims. When you were married, your spouse always had plenty of money and never really talked about it. Now that you're getting divorced, he or she starts talking about being broke and having nothing.
  • There is strange activity on online statements. Your spouse may have been spending a lot more than usual on credit cards or making many unexplained withdrawals from the bank. Any changing habits that are obviously outside the norm are concerning.
  • Your spouse had an affair. Often, people will try to hide money being used for the affair or they'll even use their romantic partner to stash assets aside.

Divorce and dividing jointly owned businesses

When two people start the process of going through a divorce, their expenses are always going to be intertwined to some extent. However, when they own a business together and need to go through the process of splitting this up, things are inevitably going to be more complicated.

It is likely that after you divorce, you will not want to keep running a business with your ex spouse. If this is indeed the case, then you will have to go through the process of dividing up the business.

Where does the law stand with child relocation?

It is very common for a child to relocate, sometimes out of state, following a divorce or separation of his or her parents. This is why there is a lot of procedure surrounding it. When there is a dispute and the issue is taken to the courts, they always take the opinions of both parents into account before making a decision that is based on the child's best interests.

You must, however, take many things into account before undertaking a move. The most important of these considerations is maintaining open communication with all family members, and especially the other parent if he or she has custody of the child.

Successfully navigating long-distance visitation

It has been a while since the finalization of your divorce, and you and your ex-spouse are now on amicable if not always the friendliest terms. You have also worked out child custody plans that you both can live with, and the children seem to be adjusting well. However, your ex recently moved to a different city, which has thrown a wrench into the workings of your new family dynamic. One parent living in another city or state is not an original concept, but it can be challenging for single parents in Florida. How can you and your ex continue to effectively parent your kids when you live so far away from each other?

If you do not always get along with your ex, putting as much distance as possible between the two of you can seem like a wonderful thing. However, this can be upsetting for children, who need love and attention from both parents. Even if you both are on good terms, it can be frustrating to work out a visitation schedule when there is distance involved. The following tips might help you develop a new plan that could make the most of the time your children spend with their long-distance parent:

  • Work out an extended time that your children can spend with the out-of-town parent, such as during school breaks and summer vacation.
  • Encourage visits every month if possible, even if they are only for a day or a weekend.
  • If you are within a few hours’ driving distance, consider meeting halfway or alternating meetings between both of your hometowns.
  • Make sure you are both on the same page regarding modes of travel for your children, pickup times and locations, whether an adult should accompany them on flights, and travel expenses.
  • Split time between major holidays. If your children spend Thanksgiving with you one year, they could spend Christmas with their other parent.
  • During times when the children are unable to see the out-of-town parent, encourage such communication modes as Skype and Facetime.

Seeking a qualified domestic relations order

It is becoming increasingly common for couples to be contemplating divorce when they are reaching retirement age or are living in retirement. This is often due to the lifestyle changes that come about during retirement. Your priorities and expectations of what marriage means might change.

When you do start the process of divorce, there are some additional aspects to consider as a retired person, including your retirement plan. It is likely that you and your spouse's finances have become very intertwined over the years, and the process of splitting them must take place.


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