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Single parenting after divorce

by | Dec 14, 2016 | Firm News |

Divorce is a season of transition. The shift in the core family structure creates a dramatic change in daily schedules and routine. For the parent in Florida raising children during and after divorce, the task of parenting solo may seem daunting, but there is hope. Divorcees can learn how to be successful single parents with time and effort. According to Modern Parenting, there are some potential road blocks that single parents should be aware of as they enter into this new phase of life. First, it is essential to be prepared for the negative actions of others. Whether it be a former spouse who is uncooperative, or other people who are unsupportive of the divorce, a single parent must recognize that the negative opinions of others are not typically helpful or necessary. It may be wise to maintain a healthy distance from negative influences during this emotionally turbulent time.

Newly single parents should be patient with themselves and their children. Raising the children alone will require a new level of decision-making, and it will probably result in some mistakes. When missteps happen, it is important to learn from them and move on, rather than dwelling on them. Additionally, taking time to develop new interests and hobbies may help with the healing process, as well as provide an outlet for nerves and frustrations. When the children act defiantly or misbehave, recognize that they are coping with a major life transition as well, and consistent, patient parenting is a much more effective response than anger.

The Huffington Post states that single parents should take several steps in order to be successful in their new role. In addition to recommending personal time in order to cope and relax, it highlights the importance of civil relationships between former spouses. If the parents are timesharing, cooperation between the two will make the transition much easier for the children. Refusing the temptation to complain about the former spouse to the children may help them to feel less torn between parents. Children who are secure in their relationships with both parents, and who have a predictable transition between the two homes, typically feel less stress, and the family may be able to establish a new normal that works for everybody.