It can be difficult, after many years of marriage, to decide on a divorce and all of the changes that come with it. However, if you are unhappy in your marriage, you may have simply come to the conclusion that life is just too short to not make the important changes that could possibly bring you long-term happiness.
Divorce will be a huge decision, no matter your age or stage of life. Therefore, it is important to base the decision on the current state of your marriage, and the possibility of it improving over time.
Understanding the need for change
You may have been feeling for a long time that you are growing incompatible with your spouse. Maybe you believe that some of his or her traits need improvement, and although you have brought these issues up, he or she seems unwilling to change or work on these issues with you. Perhaps he or she is negative and brings you down, maybe you think that his or her priorities are in the wrong place, or that he or she spends money on the wrong things. Perhaps he or she is not spontaneous enough, or not as social as you would like.
Whatever the reasons for your dissatisfaction are, you should first make an effort to go to therapy with your spouse and work through your issues. There must come a time, however, when you realize that you cannot change your spouse, only he or she can change him or herself.
If you are thinking about divorce as a retired person, you will know that it’s a big decision. But it may be the best decision that you ever make. Take your time to research the financial and social implications before moving forward with your decision.
Source: The Spruce, “How to Deal With a Spouse Who Doesn’t Want Change,” accessed March 07, 2018